Gratitude plus one bad thing
Jan. 17th, 2022 07:53 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
stormkeeper_lovesallGonna toss out some gratitude, and end with 1 sad thing. (And again, apologies if you follow me on Twitter as you get repeats now. Which is funny, it's not like my content is real fascinating in the first place and now you get it twice....)
- My friend Chris came over and helped me rearrange the master bedroom, and install the electric fireplace that Doris bought me for Christmas. Ahhh! I love it! Sadly Chris never lets me thank him. He just shrugs and says when COVID is over we can all go out to dinner.
- I been sleeping on the show "Pose" and finally started watching it. The music! The 80's! What it was like to be queer in the 80's! It's so good. Gonna go put on "Ain't Nobody" by Chaka Khan now...
- One of the starts from The Outpost did a Cameo call. It went really nicely. The way it works is: he tells his 'fan club' on Cameo the date and time of the call. If you want, you buy a ticket. You open the app at the appointed time. I followed those steps. Got a message saying I was next and then - boom! - I'm on a call with Jake Stormoen! The 3 minutes went by super fast but he was sooo nice. Loved it. He even tweeted something nice to me afterwards.
- And hey along those notes, the above actor got my favorite actor from The Outpost (Reece Ritchie) to use Twitch and to 'livestream' (is that the term?) him playing chess. I loved it. Reece was so nice.
Okay, the sad thing that happened is this. My brother-in-law died unexpectedly on Thursday. We're waiting on the autopsy but it was either a heart attack or a blood clot or an annerism (sp?). Doris doesn't recall his exact age but she thinks 50 or 51. He was married to Doris's sister Angie. He'd had problems over the years - alcoholism, depression, anxiety. And Angie is dealing with breast cancer. Their son Lucas, who is in the Marines, got home and kinda broke down, terrified he'll lose both his parents. (Angie is expected to make it though). In any case, Doris and her mom left for California today - she'll be there a whole week. I will sure miss her. But it's good of her to go and be there for her sis and nephew.
I put a little note inside Doris's carry-on bag. I hope she sees it. She's not sentimental at all about stuff like that but I wanted to do it anyway. And before she left, I gave her gifts for our 20th anniversary. Full disclosure? She didn't get me anything and I'm a little sad about it. But I'm fine.
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Date: 2022-01-18 05:13 am (UTC)I know a couple people who watch pose and love it. GLad it's so good!
How fun about the cameo call! I feel like I would be suuuuuuuuuper awkward trying to talk to a celeb that I really liked. Really neat though.
I'm glad Doris is able to go be with Angie and their mom, hopefully it will be a positive thing for them during this horrible time. I can imagine how Lucas must have felt, how terrifying to be young and feel like you might lose both of your parents. Ugh. Do you think Angie might move to Chicago?
It was sweet of you to leave a note in Doris's bag. I'd be disappointed too if I got a gift for Rollin for our anniversary and he didn't get me anything.
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Date: 2022-01-18 06:03 pm (UTC)With this guy, Jake Stormoen, it was easy. Partly because he said he felt like he already knew me (from the dozen Cameos I'd already ordered from him) and partly just because he is very personable and clearly comfortable talking to anyone. So in other words, he is perfect for something like this.
I'd actually asked Doris about Angie moving here, but she said Angie has her practice (she's a speech pathologist), her doctors who are treating her cancer, and a ton of friends in Santa Cruz and she's unlikely to move.
Yeah, I was a bit sad about there being no gift, but of course everyone has shortcomings. And maybe it's hard to track when our anniversary exactly is....but we've always celebrated it based on when we met (Jan 2002). I also ordered her a special cake for our anniversary, and it was supposed to be ready Thursday, but they just told me that yes, they can push it back a week. So that is great! I ordered a vegan version of a chocolate strawberry whipped cream cake that someone gave Doris as a gift, and she loved it. Never seen her get so excited over a cake before. Hopefully she'll like this one too.
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Date: 2022-01-18 08:19 pm (UTC)Ahh, yeah, that makes sense about Angie. I just remember that you guys had briefly discussed a 'swap' where you would go to their place and they would come here, so I thought maybe that might be something she'd want to do. But I also get that having her practice there, her drs, and friends, well, I wouldn't want to give that up either. Does she have her own practice like Doris does? Or is she part of a bigger practice? I don't know how speech pathologists work. I work with a guy who trained to be a podiatrist and he said podiatrists typically have their own practices so it's a hassle because you have to get it all set up, hire staff, and try to find patients. He decided to come work for us as a trainer instead and never left!
I would say Doris's love language is not gift giving. SHe's loving and supportive and caring, but I don't think giving gifts is high on what she would think to do to show her love. But I'm sure she will be thrilled with the cake you got her! Are you still thinking about maybe having an anniversary party in a few months if covid numbers improve?
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Date: 2022-01-21 09:26 pm (UTC)